When love blossoms it’s wonderful and so beautiful. You’re swept away and breathless.
No different than other romantic couples, two adults who are in love in an Asperger’s relationship are on cloud nine when they begin their relationship.
Once the emotional high wears off, reality sinks in and if you’re not equipped to navigate the journey, Aspie- Neurologically Typical (NT) couples may find themselves uniquely at risk.
Many Aspie-Aspie marriages and Aspie-NT marriages are successful. This post addresses the subject of Aspie-NT (one adult with Asperger’s and one adult who is Neurotypical).
For every Asperger -NT committed relationship that’s successful, there are many others who are teetering, struggling and on the edge of failing.
There are a few facts about individuals with Aspergers that are important for NT partners to understand:
• An individual with Asperger syndrome has challenges understanding or predicting the consequences of his/her behavior on others. Therefore, the Aspergers partner may see the NT partner as irrational or illogical.
• NT women especially tend to want their partners to understand them and their feelings. However, they need to realize that this is something they may not be able to get from their AS partner. Some change may be possible, but the NT partner may need to adjust his/her expectation, and find other places for support without being unrealistic about what they expect from their AS partner.
• AS men in particular may find conflict almost intolerable. They may hear a difference of opinion, or an attempt to explain a different perspective about a situation, as conflict or a criticism of who they are.
• AS individuals, because they have a hard time separating boundaries at times, may hear criticism of a family member (e.g. their father, mother, or a sibling) as a criticism of them, and they likely will not be willing to tolerate it.
• The most basic elements of speaking and hearing are the most important issues that Asperger -NT couples may have. AS adults often may have a very difficult time hearing negative emotions expressed by their partner. They may refuse to communicate, but then end up lashing out in a very hurtful way later on.
An Aspergers – NT relationship may require more insight and understanding than some others. Hypnosis is a fast and powerful way to learn about new approaches when navigating such a relationship.
Special Aspergers audio hypnosis sessions have been developed by psychologists with wide experience of helping couples with Aspergers related difficulties. Specifically developed for the NT husband or wife, they will help you develop and hone the emotional intelligence skills that can transform your relationship.
Read more about these powerful programs:
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