Approval seeking can actually hold you back from realizing your life’s ambitions. That’s because you can only go as far as your willing to risk not getting the approval of others.That’s why we created the audi session “I Am Enough“.
Typically, it begins as a logical strategy. We win the respect of others, temporarily brighten their day, and feel fairly good about ourselves. It looks like the best course to follow, and we can stay on it for a very long time with the belief that it will lessen our concern over being rejected in our daily lives. Actually, it can be a really effective strategy for winning over others. We steer clear of their disapproval of our behavior and occasionally get to experience that warm pat on the back. But eventually the incessant need for approval—which is actually the cause of all of our issues—will exhaust itself. And the very behavior that gave us such a strong sense of accomplishment will turn into the issue itself.
We are urgently looking for external acceptance of ourselves when we try to please other people. Furthermore, we set ourselves up for failure whenever we look on the outside world to provide for us what we should be providing for ourselves. We prepare ourselves to lead lives we don’t particularly want but that will conform to what other people think we should be doing. We wouldn’t dare risk doing something that would draw a judgmental glance or score poorly on the social hierarchy. We carry out our obligations. We comply with what is expected of us by others. We receive their blessing in exchange. Why not seek approval, you might be asking. The truth is that we can only achieve it by sacrificing our authenticity and ability to discern what we truly desire. We miss opportunities to learn how to approve of ourselves—even if others don’t—when we seek acceptance from others.
How Is Seeking Approval Keeping You From Being Your True Self?
Seeking acceptance from others can be having a detrimental impact on your effectiveness without you even realizing it. This is due to the likelihood that you put off doing things that are important to you, experience fear when stepping outside of your comfort zone, and become fixated on thinking about what other people might think of you. Because you’re too worried and feel that your performance must be flawless, needing approval may force you to pass up opportunities. You can get so terrified of failure as a result and give up before you even begin.
This is why it’s crucial to concentrate on how your desire for acceptance prevents you from taking action on projects that are significant to you. When you get past this, you’ll be much more free to accomplish your goals and create the things you desire in life since you won’t be as preoccupied with what other people will think.
Even though you presumably have a high IQ and consistently obtain outcomes that seem favorable, you frequently do so at the price of everything else. You end up doing too much, feeling overwhelmed, becoming buried in your thoughts about your issues, people-pleasing, overworking, avoiding making time for yourself, and continuously finding yourself unable to say no when you’re driven to succeed merely because you want to impress others.
I am Enough is an audio hypnosis session that will help you build a foundation of self-acceptance.
If you identify, try concentrating on how your desire for acceptance is causing you to overextend yourself rather than engaging in activities that are significant to you. It’s time to change when you notice that serving others at the price of yourself causes you harm.
Knowing Yourself Is Important
You lose sight of what matters to you, what motivates you, and what makes you happy when other people’s acceptance of you influences how you choose how to spend your time. You could feel trapped doing tasks you don’t particularly enjoy and keep up unproductive behaviors. If you identify with this, it’s time to concentrate your efforts on discovering what truly matters to you. Start by asking yourself, “What do I value?” What disturbs me at night? Why do I like to spend my time the way I do? Start paying attention to what you truly want out of life, and make sure that your actions reflect those ideals. Your life becomes more easier and more effortless when you live in accordance with your values.
Start making decisions based on what’s right for you rather than what other people will think. You can design the life you want when you are intentional about how you spend your time and dedicated to accomplishing what matters to you. Contrary to popular assumption, being successful doesn’t require you to always appear busy. You might also define success as the act of accomplishing what is important to you.
Get rid of the requirement for approval!
Developing the courage to follow your gut instincts is the first step in accomplishing this. You won’t feel the need to look to other people for approval once you start doing this. Start to become more self-aware and pay attention to the habits that, regardless of how other people react to you, make you feel good about yourself. Think back on your decisions, the qualities you appreciate about yourself, or the times you kept true to yourself.
The I Am Enough Hypnosis Session cuts through the noise in your head and speaks directly to the unconscious mind, where it works to make changes deep within you.
When you take on a new commitment, you need to start being honest with yourself and determine if you are doing it because it is right for you or because you are doing it to get someone else’s praise or to avoid getting someone else’s criticism.
Before accepting a new assignment or commitment, take your time. Review your schedule, step back, and ask yourself: What’s actually necessary and vital, and what’s motivated by people-pleasing? Once this is evident, begin gently going through the list of approvals needed so that you may reassess. It will be simpler for you to eliminate such tasks and swap them with activities that promote the advancement of your own goals once you become aware of what you aren’t doing for yourself in order to win other people’s acceptance.
I am aware of how challenging it might be to stop acting in ways that gain your approval. Starting to make judgments that might be viewed negatively by others is not simple. For a very valid reason, you probably started looking for approval; in certain circumstances, it probably felt like the simpler, less dramatic course of action for you to take. In some situations, it might be detrimental to act without first getting approval from others. However, if you consistently avoid conflict, your life will be devoid of your actual ideals, which will inevitably lead to you doubting your value as a person. It ultimately depends on you because both options have drawbacks of their own. But keep in mind that you have a decision to make, so bear that in mind.
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